Women's rights are the rights and entitlements claimed for women and girls of many societies worldwide.
In some places these rights are institutionalized or supported by law, local custom, and behaviour, whereas in others they may be ignored or suppressed. They differ from broader notions of human rights through claims of an inherent historical and traditional bias against the exercise of rights by women and girls in favour of men and boys.
Peace or harmony between the sexes and individuals does not
necessarily depend on a superficial equalization of human beings; nor
does it call for the elimination of individual traits and peculiarities.
The problem that confronts us today, and which the nearest future is to
solve, is how to be one's self and yet in oneness with others, to feel
deeply with all human beings and still retain one's own characteristic
qualities. This seems to me to be the basis upon which the mass and the
individual, the true democrat and the true individuality, man and woman,
can meet without antagonism and opposition. The motto should not be:
Forgive one another; rather, Understand one another. The oft-quoted
sentence of Madame de Staƫl: "To understand everything means to forgive
everything," has never particularly appealed to me; it has the odor of
the confessional; to forgive one's fellow-being conveys the idea of
pharisaical superiority. To understand one's fellow-being suffices. The
admission partly represents the fundamental aspect of my views on the
emancipation of woman and its effect upon the entire sex.
Emancipation should make it possible for woman to be human in the
truest sense. Everything within her that craves assertion and activity
should reach its fullest expression; all artificial barriers should be
broken, and the road towards greater freedom cleared of every trace of
centuries of submission and slavery.
Emancipation has brought woman economic equality with man; that is,
she can choose her own profession and trade; but as her past and present
physical training has not equipped her with the necessary strength to
compete with man, she is often compelled to exhaust all her energy, use
up her vitality, and strain every nerve in order to reach the market
value. Very few ever succeed, for it is a fact that women teachers,
doctors, lawyers, architects, and engineers are neither met with the
same confidence as their male colleagues, nor receive equal
remuneration. And those that do reach that enticing equality, generally
do so at the expense of their physical and psychical well-being. As to
the great mass of working girls and women, how much independence is
gained if the narrowness and lack of freedom of the home is exchanged
for the narrowness and lack of freedom of the factory, sweat-shop,
department store, or office? In addition is the burden which is laid on
many women of looking after a "home, sweet home" --cold, dreary,
disorderly, uninviting--after a day's hard work. Glorious independence!
No wonder that hundreds of girls are so willing to accept the first
offer of marriage, sick and tired of their "independence" behind the
counter, at the sewing or typewriting machine. They are just as ready to
marry as girls of the middle class, who long to throw off the yoke of
parental supremacy. A so-called independence which 1eads only to earning
the merest subsistence is not so enticing, not so ideal, that one could
expect woman to sacrifice everything for it. Our highly praised
independence is, after all, but a slow process of dulling and stifling
woman's nature, her love instinct, and her mother instinct.
Nevertheless, the position of the working girl is far more natural
and human than that of her seemingly more fortunate sister in the more
cultured professional walks of life teachers, physicians, lawyers,
engineers, etc., who have to make a dignified, proper appearance, while
the inner life is growing empty and dead.
The narrowness of the existing conception of woman's independence
and emancipation; the dread of love for a man who is not her social
equal; the fear that love will rob her of her freedom and independence;
the horror that love or the joy of motherhood will only hinder her in
the full exercise of her profession--all these together make of the
emancipated modern woman a compulsory vestal, before whom life, with its
great clarifying sorrows and its deep, entrancing joys, rolls on
without touching or gripping her soul.
Emancipation, as understood by the majority of its adherents and
exponents, is of too narrow a scope to permit the boundless love and
ecstasy contained in the deep emotion of the true woman, sweetheart,
mother, in freedom.
The tragedy of the self-supporting or economically free woman does
not lie in too many, but in too few experiences. True, she surpasses her
sister of past generations in knowledge of the world and human nature;
it is just because of this that she feels deeply the lack of life's
essence, which alone can enrich the human soul, and without which the
majority of women have become mere professional automatons.
That such a state of affairs was bound to come was foreseen by those
who realized that, in the domain of ethics, there still remained many
decaying ruins of the time of the undisputed superiority of man; ruins
that are still considered useful. And, what is more important, a goodly
number of the emancipated are unable to get along without them. Every
movement that aims at the destruction of existing institutions and the
replacement thereof with something more advanced, more perfect, has
followers who in theory stand for the most radical ideas, but who,
nevertheless, in their every-day practice, are like the average
Philistine, feigning respectability and clamoring for the good opinion
of their opponents. There are, for example, Socialists, and even
Anarchists, who stand for the idea that property is robbery, yet who
will grow indignant if anyone owe them the value of a half-dozen pins.
The same Philistine can be found in the movement for woman's
emancipation. Yellow journalists and milk-and-water litterateurs have
painted pictures of the emancipated woman that make the hair of the good
citizen and his dull companion stand up on end. Every member of the
woman's rights movement was pictured as a George Sand in her absolute
disregard of morality. Nothing was sacred to her. She had no respect for
the ideal relation between man and woman. In short, emancipation stood
only for a reckless life of lust and sin; regardless of society,
religion, and morality. The exponents of woman's rights were highly
indignant at such misrepresentation, and, lacking humor, they exerted
all their energy to prove that they were not at all as bad as they were
painted, but the very reverse. Of course, as long as woman was the slave
of man, she could not be good and pure, but now that she was free and
independent she would prove how good she could be and that her influence
would have a purifying effect on all institutions in society. True, the
movement for woman's rights has broken many old fetters, but it has
also forged new ones. The great movement of true emancipation
has not met with a great race of women who could look liberty in the
face. Their narrow, Puritanical vision banished man, as a disturber and
doubtful character, out of their eniotional life. Man was not to be
tolerated at any price, except perhaps as the father of a child, since a
child could not very well come to life without a father. Fortunately,
the most rigid Puritans never will be strong enough to kill the innate
craving for motherhood. But woman's freedom is closely allied with man's
freedom, and many of my so-called emancipated sisters seem to overlook
the fact that a child born in freedom needs the love and devotion of
each human being about him, man as well as woman. Unfortunately, it is
this narrow conception of human relations that has brought about a great
tragedy in the lives of the modern man and woman.
About fifteen years ago appeared a work from the pen of the brilliant Norwegian Laura Marholm, called Woman, a Character Study.
She was one of the first to call attention to the emptiness and
narrowness of the existing conception of woman's emancipation, and its
tragic effect upon the inner life of woman. In her work Laura Marholm
speaks of the fate of several gifted women of international fame: the
genius Eleonora Duse; the great mathematician and writer Sonya
Kovalevskaia; the artist and poet nature Marie Bashkirtzeff, who died so
young. Through each description of the lives of these women of such
extraordinary mentality runs a marked trail of unsatisfied craving for a
full, rounded, complete, and beautiful life, and the unrest and
loneliness resulting from the lack of it. Through these masterly
psychological sketches one cannot help but see that the higher the
mental development of woman, the less possible it is for her to meet a
congenial mate who will see in her, not only sex, but also the human
being, the friend, the comrade and strong individuality, who cannot and
ought not lose a single trait of her character.
The average man with his self-sufficiency, his ridiculously superior
airs of patronage towards the female sex, is an impossibility for woman
as depicted in the Character Study by Laura Marholm. Equally
impossible for her is the man who can see in her nothing more than her
mentality and her genius, and who fails to awaken her woman nature.
A rich intellect and a fine soul are usually considered necessary
attributes of a deep and beautiful personality. In the case of the
modern woman, these attributes serve as a hindrance to the complete
assertion of her being. For over a hundred years the old form of
marriage, based on the Bible, "till death doth part," has been denounced
as an institution that stands for the sovereignty of the man over the
woman, of her complete submission to his whims and commands, and
absolute dependence on his name and support. Time and again it has been
conclusively proved that the old matrimonial relation restricted woman
to the function of man's servant and the bearer of his children. And yet
we find many emancipated women who prefer marriage, with all its
deficiencies, to the narrowness of an unmarried life: narrow and
unendurable because of the chains of moral and social prejudice that
cramp and bind her nature.
The explanation of such inconsistency on the part of many advanced
women is to be found in the fact that they never truly understood the
meaning of emancipation. They thought that all that was needed was
independence from external tyrannies; the internal tyrants, far more
harmful to life and growth--ethical and social conventions--were left to
take care of themselves; and they have taken care of themselves. They
seem to get along as beautifully in the heads and hearts of the most
active exponents of woman's emancipation, as in the heads and hearts of
our grandmothers.
These internal tyrants, whether they be in the form of public
opinion or what will mother say, or brother, father, aunt, or relative
of any sort; what will Mrs. Grundy, Mr. Comstock, the employer, the
Board of Education say? All these busybodies, moral detectives, jailers
of the human spirit, what will they say? Until woman has learned to defy
them all, to stand firmly on her own ground and to insist upon her own
unrestricted freedom, to listen to the voice of her nature, whether it
call for life's greatest treasure, love for a man, or her most glorious
privilege, the right to give birth to a child, she cannot call herself
emancipated. How many emancipated women are brave enough to acknowledge
that the voice of love is calling, wildly beating against their breasts,
demanding to be heard, to be satisfied.
The French writer Jean Reibrach, in one of his novels, New
Beauty, attempts to picture the ideal, beautiful, emancipated woman.
This ideal is embodied in a young girl, a physician. She talks very
cleverly and wisely of how to feed infants; she is kind, and administers
medicines free to poor mothers. She converses with a young man of her
acquaintance about the sanitary conditions of the future, and how
various bacilli and germs shall be exterminated by the use of stone
walls and floors, and by the doing away with rugs and hangings. She is,
of course, very plainly and practically dressed, mostly in black. The
young man, who, at their first meeting, was overawed by the wisdom of
his emancipated friend, gradually learns to understand her, and
recognizes one fine day that he loves her. They are young, and she is
kind and beautiful, and though always in rigid attire, her appearance is
softened by a spotlessly clean white collar and cuffs. One would expect
that he would tell her of his love, but he is not one to commit
romantic absurdities. Poetry and the enthusiasm of love cover their
blushing faces before the pure beauty of the lady. He silences the voice
of his nature, and remains correct. She, too, is always exact, always
rational, always well behaved. I fear if they had formed a union, the
young man would have risked freezing to death. I must confess that I can
see nothing beautiful in this new beauty, who is as cold as the stone
walls and floors she dreams of. Rather would I have the love songs of
romantic ages, rather Don Juan and Madame Venus, rather an elopement by
ladder and rope on a moonlight night, followed by the father's curse,
mother's moans, and the moral comments of neighbors, than correctness
and propriety measured by yardsticks. If love does not know how to give
and take without restrictions, it is not love, but a transaction that
never fails to lay stress on a plus and a minus.
The greatest shortcoming of the emancipation of the present day lies
in its artificial stiffness and its narrow respectabilities, which
produce an emptiness in woman's soul that will not let her drink from
the fountain of life. I once remarked that there seemed to be a deeper
relationship between the old-fashioned mother and hostess, ever on the
alert for the happiness of her little ones and the comfort of those she
loved, and the truly new woman, than between the latter and her average
emancipated sister. The disciples of emancipation pure and simple
declared me a heathen, fit only for the stake. Their blind zeal did not
let them see that my comparison between the old and the new was merely
to prove that a goodly number of our grandmothers had more blood in
their veins, far more humor and wit, and certainly a greater amount of
naturalness, kind-heartedness, and simplicity, than the majority of our
emancipated professional women who fill the colleges, halls of learning,
and various offices. This does not mean a wish to return to the past,
nor does it condemn woman to her old sphere, the kitchen and the
nursery.
Salvation lies in an energetic march onward towards a brighter and
clearer future. We are in need of unhampered growth out of old
traditions and habits. The movement for woman's emancipation has so far
made but the first step in that direction It is to be hoped that it will
gather strength to make another. The right to vote, or equal civil
rights, may be good demands, but true emancipation begins neither at the
polls nor in courts. It begins in woman's soul. History tells us that
every oppressed class gained true liberation from its masters through
its own efforts. It is necessary that woman learn that Iesson, that she
realize that her freedom will reach as far as her power to achieve her
freedom reaches. It is, therefore, far more important for her to begin
with her inner regeneration, to cut loose from the weight of prejudices,
traditions, and customs. The demand for equal rights in every vocation
of life is just and fair; but, after all, the most vital right is the
right to love and be loved. Indeed, if partial emancipation is to become
a complete and true emancipation of woman, it will have to do away with
the ridiculous notion that to be loved, to be sweetheart and mother, is
synonymous with being slave or subordinate. It will have to do away
with the absurd notion of the dualism of the sexes, or that man and
woman represent two antagonistic worlds.
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